A gynecologist has made a list of the questions which he is asked particularly often by girls before they have their first sex. We have answered the top five questions on this list for you.

1. Can I get pregnant the first time?

Yes. Even if you are not yet having regular periods it is still possible for eggs to mature and for ovulation to take place. It is therefore essential to use contraception before you have sex for the first time.

It is a sign of affection and responsibility towards each other if both partners inform themselves about suitable methods before having sex. Otherwise there is a risk of an unwanted pregnancy.

The best approach is the method known as 'Double Dutch'. This works as follows: A condom should always be used to prevent contracting a sexually transmitted disease. However, condoms are only moderately effective as a contraceptive. Also, their use requires some practice, so there may be accidents at the beginning. It is therefore a good idea to use a second method of contraception in addition to the condom.

Unfortunately there are still a lot of myths and fairy tales about contraception even today.

2. Does the first time hurt?

There are various reasons why the first time may be painful.

	If the hymen is still intact when you have your first sex it can be a little painful when it stretches and tears. If a girl has had sexual experience before her first intercourse through masturbation or petting the hymen may already have been stretched.
	If the penis is introduced before the vagina is sufficiently moist this can be painful. The vagina becomes lubricated (moistened) when the girl is sexually aroused. The young couple should therefore not be too hasty about penetration. But you can also use saliva or a lubricant jelly to make insertion of the penis easier.
	Excitement and nervousness the first time can make a girl tense her pelvic muscles - particularly in the vagina. This can make it feel as though the vagina is too narrow for the penis. But the vagina is extremely elastic. After all, during childbirth it can become wide enough for the baby to pass. If penetration causes pain this is definitely not due to the size of the penis. The girl is probably not yet ready to have intercourse. In sex the first rule is pleasure and relaxation. Masturbation and petting can help you get to know your body.

3. How big is a penis?

First of all: the length of a penis can only be measured during erection, that is when it is hard.

According to scientific studies the average length of the fully erected penis in Central Europe is 13.5 cm. A penis 2.5 cm shorter or longer is also completely normal.
The vagina is constructed in such a way that it can take up the penis. It is a muscular tube which adapts to fit the size of the penis.

4. Will I have an orgasm the first time?

Maybe. But if you don't that's perfectly ok too. Even experienced women do not always have an orgasm. It is not important either, as long as everything else is right and you enjoy the physical contact with your partner.

It is also important to know that boys usually climax more easily and more quickly. Boys are often unable to hold back their orgasm and insecurity and lack of experience make them lose sight of their girl-friend's needs.
Therefore there is a saying that goes: good lovers are made, not born.

A fulfilled sex life has nothing to do with perfectionism and performance but only with pleasure and wellbeing. Getting to know each other better will increase your trust and self-confidence.

Puberty is a time to give your body a lot of attention. Masturbation and petting help many girls to get a feeling for what they like and what their partner likes. In this way you can enjoy sexual arousal and learn to reach a climax.

5. Will I bleed the first time?

If the hymen is still intact the first time you have sex there may be a little bleeding when the penis is inserted as this causes the hymen to stretch and tear.

But it is a myth that all girls bleed the first time. In fact only half of all girls bleed the first time. In many girls the hymen is already torn by the time they have their first intercourse (e.g. through sport, petting, using tampons).

The state of a girl's hymen therefore does not say anything about whether or not she is still a virgin.